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I got pregnant with my child when I was 17! I got pregnant so the father would marry me. After I had the baby I realized it was to much for me so I would do things hoping he would leave so I would have a reason to divorce him and pocket everything. Well, in the divorce we were both fighting for the child. In the end, I told him that if he signed over the title to his truck then I would let him have her. Everything was working out great for me until he got with this BITCH that my child started calling mama. That pissed me off so I filed for custody of her. In the end I didn't get her. Now he won't let me even see her. This drove me to just up and move away to another state. He probably doesn't even know I'm gone because I didn't go and say bye to my daughter, or tell them that I was moving. While all this was going on I had twins and I have them with me. I pulled them away from their daddy just because I was feeling that they love him more t
han me. Besides, he was taking me to court because of my problems with drugs and getting arrested too much. It didn't work...I got my way...like usual!!!!.
Anonymous -- 1/3/2009
I am really upset about my divorce so I have used my kids to get back at my ex. I tell them they shouldn't love their Dad and his new girlfriend and tell them that their father left them. I don't want them to love their Dad because it hurts me. I have lied in our divorce and under oath in court. I stole money from my ex. I cheated on him in our marriage. Secretly I want him back.
Anonymous -- 1/5/2009
Okay, I know it says "Bad Mothers", but some Dad's are the Mommies too. (No, I don't mean like that. I lost a wife to cancer). Here's the confession. Sometimes, I don't help my kids with every "little" thing. Sometimes, I don't listen to their every word. Sometimes, I give them pizza for dinner TWO NIGHTS IN-A-ROW! I forget to comfort them when they need it. I forget to anticipate their needs at all times. I don't share in their hobbies and interests, or monitor their television and help them choose their friends. I don't even have a "V" chip installed on my TV. I eat fattening snacks and don't save any for them. My youngest is 3 months from 18, and 6 months from going to college. If God doesn't forgive me, maybe the kids will. They seemed to turn out alright, and I don't deserve all the credit, or even most of it. I hope I was right for letting them see me as human and fallible, because I can't un-do it now. I hope I was right for letting them rely on themselves a little bit
, and letting them know not to count on me being there every time, for everything.
Anonymous -- 1/8/2009
I'm selfish with my time. I should spend more time homeschooling that sitting on the computer. Everyday I take an hour for myself to work out, I should take an hour to teach the little one to read as well. Lord help me. Oh, and one time at a restaurant my little one went tumbling to floor in her car seat. She landed face down but still strapped in. I thought about suing the company that makes those contraptions to hold the carseats but really I should have been watching her more closely instead of drinking my wine. Oh, and I really like wine. This is kind of liberating. Dang, that little one is going to resent her big sister, nothing too bad happens to that one. Maybe she won't remember, she's only four.
Anonymous -- 1/14/2009
My younger sister had her first child at the age of 40. So one day me and my sister were watching her 3yo daughter play with her doll house and little toy people.
Niecey put the baby doll in the toy swing and then she put a toy chair in back of the swing like that is where it belonged. Then out came the mommy doll and she put her in the chair so the mommy doll could sit and push the baby in the swing.
I looked at my sister and she said "SO?" and we both started laughing so hard we couldnt breathe.
Anonymous -- 1/14/2009
I noticed that my 12 and my 14 year old hadn't bathed all week. I was upset that I had not followed through and made sure they were obeying our rules about showering at night.
I told them that I was a bad mom for letting them get away with it, but I feel all better now.
They assured me that the bad moms are the ones who are making their kids bathe!
Anonymous -- 1/17/2009
I feel like an awful mother most of the time. My daughters are 5 and 2 but I just don't enjoy them at the moment. Its a constant battle with them, to go to bed, to get up, to get ready, have dinner, everything. They are wonderful gorgeous children but I'm just soo tired most of the time. I have battles with myself constantly, telling myself to calm down ,relax , don't shout but I always end up screaming my head off!!!
Right I'm finished work now so better head home and face the music :( See I feel guilty again , I should look forward to going home to my children but I just don't at the moment. Hopefully this phrase passes xx
Anonymous -- 1/19/2009
my mother wants nothing to do with me. I have been told that she wants me out of her life.I can't even call to talk to my dad as she gives him grief if he does talk to me. She has turned most of my siblings against me and those who have seen through her lies are now also persons non gratis to her. Nothing was ever good enough for her.
For example on day she said to me "you know you can do what ever you set your mind to" then not even 15 minutes later when I was looking at courses for collage, she came up and asked what I was doing , and I told her that i was thinking of taking such and such course then go on to take a few others, She turned around and said" Well don't get to ahead of yourself , you know you don't finish anything you start" What i really needed from her was that it sounded like a plan, even if she had have said just to take it one step at a time would have been ok but for her to say that after saying i could do what ever i put my mind t o is like she had physically slapped me.
The saddest part of all this?
She is now raising my daughter.
Anonymous -- 1/21/2009
I have a sister that has a child she shows no love for. He is 10 yrs. old and she took a part-time job as a flight attendant and left my 56 yr. old mother to raise him. My mom does not have a schedule for her flights. My mother does not recieve money for taking care of him, and my mother always takes up for her. Recently she had oral surgery and my mother did not know where she stayed to recovery. So we really don't know if she had it or not. I think my sister is a very bad mom.
Anonymous -- 1/21/2009
This morning my 9 year old asked me if worrying is a sin. He told me he had sinned because he was worried about a writing test he was having at school that day. It is my fault he worried because I tell him his handwriting is terrible when we study his spelling words. And I worry about everything too.
Anonymous -- 1/21/2009
My step son is 34 years old. he was in his early 20's when I married his dad. He was always so cruel to me when his dad wasn't around. Once he told me I was not a member of the family and never would be. He would come over and go through the cabinets and my things and he talked to me like I was a dog.
His Mother told me once he was jealous of me. I tried everything I could to improve the relationship for many years.
Then 5 years ago I saw him being cruel to my dog, I caught him hitting him and grabbing him up by the collar. I don't allow him in our home now. I feel guilt over it all the time. I mean it's my husband's son but I really really really dislike the brat now! The last time I saw him I started to gag just looking at him.
Anonymous -- 1/21/2009
I felt so incredibly close to my young children while nursing that I never really stopped. The bond with them felt too good to cut it off. So every now and again while watching TV my teenager will plop down on my lap for what we call, "leche de booboo." I know he's a too old to be doing this but I don't want to hurt his feelings.
Anonymous -- 1/29/2009
Believe me I am the worlds worst mom I hate my kids to the core,I don't like to be around them.I wish me and my husband could just leave them and start our life a fresh.They don't even love their mother I gave them everything they wanted and they give more love and affection to comlpete strangers,so why even bother.All I ever wanted growing up was a family of my own and all I got was shit.I need help but just don't know what to do.
Anonymous -- 2/1/2009
I'm too lazy. Half the time we barely get through the day when I really wish I was more actively involved with my kids. I don't know if it's depression or resentment but I'm just not feeling like mother material.
Anonymous -- 2/2/2009
I told my children today that I was going to sell them to gypsies.
Anonymous -- 2/2/2009
My younger daughter lost a tooth last week and I forgot to play Tooth Fairy after she went to sleep. I crept to her room around 5:30 the next morning & did the trade. She informed me later that the Tooth Fairy usually gives her more money; later she asked what I was doing in her room so early.
Anonymous -- 2/2/2009
My 10 year old daughter had a sore throat, so I let her stay home from school. She said she felt a little better the next day, so I took her to school. When I picked her up, she said she felt horrible and her throat really hurt. I took her to the doctor the next morning and she had a raging case of strep. I'm not sure how many classmates she infected.
Anonymous -- 2/2/2009
I hate that my depression from my huge failures as a mother and a wife is ruining the lives of my children and I know its ruining my marriage! I hate being married and i hate trying to live up to what is expected of me in these two depatments. I can't do it and I hate being lonely and forgetting what its like to have any joy in life.
Anonymous -- 2/4/2009
Deep breath. I'm a mess and it's affecting my kids. The house is a wreck, anything and everything keeps going wrong. For instance no vehicle and no dependable people. The mail is screwed up and I have to figure out why it hasn't been delivered in over a week. Not so bad except we're expecting very important things, such as ID!
So now I get to worry about ID theft. I lost it today and just layed on the couch a complete mess! Every scream, holler and fight just kept getting to me. After begging my daughter to leave me alone for just a little bit while I tried to vent to a friend I completely lost it! Started yelling until I didn't know who I was yelling at. Luckily I was smart enough to walk out of the room while I was yelling but I continued to yell at the mirror and curse only God knows who. Am I the only one who gets overwhelmed too easy? I sure hope! It's lonely being the only impatient bad mother!
Anonymous -- 2/4/2009
My bad mother is a defeatist who saids I cannot do anything.
I was diagnosed with a mental illness and currently live with my mother who is a hair raising pot smoker, I am not.
Every time I try to do something toward my future career she puts me down saying i cannot do it because of my illness. I have been looking for my own place but have not found a decent place, yes the obvious is to move out. Alas I feel bad, she saids I have no moral realistic view of money and by entering a competition for a sholarship, is just another way of being defeated she saids. I am currently trying to prepare myself for uni. And really want to make my dreams come true. She saids I will be unable to study at uni due to my illness.
Oh well Just wanted to have a winge......
Anonymous -- 2/10/2009
im a bad mom because i cheat on my daughters father with all his friends in front of her. one day she will realize her mommy is a whore. what will i tell her?
Anonymous -- 2/10/2009
I'm no perfect person. I've made mistakes growing up and have been diciplined just like any other person. But my mom thinks that its OK for someone to be given a hard time over the mistakes of their past on a regular ongoing basis for the rest of their natural born lives! She's fine with it! And if I never get married and never get to live a normal life without being harassed and ambarassed about shit I have done years and years ago, she's fine with that too; she thinks I deserve it.
She thinks its OK for someone to be put through this, even her own son, if its "for the right cause". Furthermore, she doesn't even appreciate what my father does for her! My dad has worked hard all these years to bring home money, take her on vacations every year, keep the cars running, keep the house in shape, etc.... And all my mom can do is complain! She wants a NEW house! A NEW car! And she just gives this sob story as though she's had such a hard life, and how many women would have left my father long time ago because he didn't GIVE her enough. HE GAVE HER EVERYTHING!!!!
And then to top it off she goes to church every sunday and comes out with this holier-than-thou attitude. I've seen enough; I don't think she loves us any more. She's completely self absorbed in a holier-than-thou disgruntled state of mind, as though she didn't get enough out of life, and is stuck with a no-good kid who doesn't deserve to be happy. I'm fed up!
Anonymous -- 2/12/2009
I use perscription drugs all day, I cheeted on my husband, I kidnaped our children, I now get welfare and food stamps, I gave my xhusband a childsupport death sentence, I make up bad stories about their father, I get my children to do yard work and pick up cans for money I use for meth.
Anonymous -- 2/17/2009
Well,this is to the mom that broke her baby's arm.I'm a kid.I beleive that parents shouldn't feel bad about that because it's just an accident.I know she will forgive you one day.
Anonymous -- 2/23/2009
my daughter was born june 17 2005 I did everything right,i wanted to be the perfect mother...and I was up until her father and I broke up.i was completely lost not to mention I had relocated to a state that I knew noone in.i went into a state of mind I can't even explain I tried to do it by myself but it became so painful I couldn't even bear to look at her,i began letting her stay with his mom,and days turned into months and I haven't seen her since december I rarely talk to her dad in fact he ignores me,sometimes I just want to talk to him to see if he feels the same way in which I know he doesn't because its always been like a double standard when it comes to men and women,from my understanding he hardly sees her too.
i miss her so much and its gotten to the point to where as I feel I've given up,i want her here with me but I don't want to do it alone I'm such a bad mom
Anonymous -- 2/23/2009
my mother!
i guess she means well but, she lacks alot...I'm sick with the cold[feeling like crap] and i had to beg her to stay home ...when i need comfort i can never count on her, i can never tell her anything because she judges me...it hurts to see my friends with moms that actually care...don't get me wrong she try's to get me everything i want, but, I just hoping that she will show that she love and care's about me!
Anonymous -- 2/24/2009
I have been know on more than one occasion to set the clocks back an hour or so to justify putting an obnoxious small sick child to bed.
Anonymous -- 3/17/2009
Ok here is my "bad mom" story... tuesday was St.patrick's day and my husband let me go out since i hadn't been out since my son was born 6 months ago!! well lets just say i had fun.... about 7 vodka and cranberry's later. so i come home pass out and wake up to find my daughter had missed the bus, then i can't find my keys to take her to school. So i just tell her she doesnt have school because she had the rest of the week off for spring break.. man i felt bad but i really just wanted to go back to bed...
Anonymous -- 3/19/2009
I have 3 kids and the only one that makes me feel like a failure as a mom is my middle child, the 10 year old. All I see in her are the negative things and often I question wheher I even like her at all. She lived with her dad (my ex husband) for 2 years and has recently come back to live with me this past year.
I secretly wish that she would move back in with him and leave me in peace.
Anonymous -- 3/23/2009
i shush my daughter just because I sometimes don't want to hear her speak... is that bad?
Anonymous -- 3/26/2009
My kids watch way to much television. I read everything there was to learn about how bad TV can be for little children, and I am very educated about it. I vowed to only let them watch educational programing no more than one hour a day. I've completely lapsed, and now I spend all day on the computer, and my children are little zombies watching TV behind me so that I can Twitter and blog in peace. When I look behind me, their eyes are glazed over.
They aren't even playing. Even my 14 month old...that's all they do, and now my 2.5 yo needs a movie on to fall asleep. My husband works from home online and he's continually putting pressure on me to do work to, or to help him with his businesses. I feel bad that I'm neglecting my children and letting the TV be their mother.
Anonymous -- 3/31/2009
This is something my mom did to me. When I was in middle school is fell on my wrist during this sport we were playing. The teacher noticed immediately and sent me to the nurse's office.
I called my mom and told her to come fast because my wrist HURT A LOT! I told her that nurse thought it was broken and I needed to be taken to the er immedeately. Due to my grandmother's insistence that I had only a slight "sprain" they decided to go to COSCO first to buy food. I was a sight to behold for the people in COSCO. I was still wearing my P.E clothes which were dirty from my fall and a sling for my arm that they gave me at school. I was soo mad! I started crying so that my mom would hurry up. Eventually we got to the doctors and They said I had fractured my wrist. I am now 18 and still get angry when I think about that.
Anonymous -- 4/5/2009
I keep sticking a pacifier in my 2-month-old's mouth so that I can keep reading about bad mommies without having to hold or nurse her ...
Anonymous -- 4/6/2009
My mother,i have always loved,but i am just a child and i need her now more than ever. but all her attention is to her boyfriend. who just so happened to hurt me and my sister. i miss her very much and only wish she would believe me. now she wont even hug me. she even told me that i wasnt her daughter. i still love her, but she doesnt care. (tear)
Anonymous -- 4/8/2009
I confess that sometimes I think about getting divorced just so I can have a couple of days a week to myself. I won't do it, but it's a little disturbing that I even consider it.
Anonymous -- 4/9/2009
i had my first baby 17/10/1995 , i was home afetr 6 days cuz had c section, the next day i walked to the shops about half mile away with my new baby in pram , after buying my thing i walked home only to realize i left my baby outside the shop ..... ooopppssss silly me i was not used to having a baby are pram
Anonymous -- 4/15/2009
I have been taking care of my 9yr old brother since he was born. I am 25 and already feel like a worn out 40 yr old. I get so mad at him and yell all the time. The look on his face when I do it just hurts me and rips my heart to bits. I feel so bad but I can't help it. I truly am so sorry.
Anonymous -- 4/16/2009
sometimes i let my ten year old play video games and watch tv all day
Anonymous -- 4/19/2009
I got so sick of my lazy 16 yr. old using MY bathroom towel to wipe his chocolatey or spaghettied )face and hands, that one day I stuck a rusty pin in it( in an obvious place) What kind of mother??????????I know I'll miss him when he moves out, but...
Anonymous -- 4/22/2009
Sometimes when my daughter is being bad and I have to keep getting on to her I tell her to do what ever she wants to do . When she comes back minutes later crying I laugh at her and tell her thats what she gets for not listening. (it helps me stay straight) .
Anonymous -- 4/24/2009
It's so hard being a 31 year old student and a mother... next to no money in debt by $2000 but not able to pay it off cause I prioritize things wrong with my spending, being reliant on your father for extra cash leaves me feeling shameful a lot of the time and very secretive with my life with others. I am thinking of the solution but that's a year off. When I feel at my worst I have put heaps of pressure on my 8 year old daughter with worrying for her future and using psychological warfare on her many times to make her want to improve on her math writing and other subjects wanting her to be the best at something and it defeats the purpose at the time as all that leaves her feeling is shite about herself and makes her feel she is not good enough. I feel bad for that and when I feel ok I think I make it up to her and her self esteem is quite good overall and have to be relaxed more about things as I believe she is an all rounder, she just hasn't found her true passion which may
take a some time, I need more patience and give her more freedom and not try to be in control. I feel isolated and quite lonely at times and hope to god that my daughter gets out of life all she wishes.
Anonymous -- 4/29/2009
last summer, my 14 yr old son fell as he was running down the stairs. He fell the last 4 steps. After he hit the bottom he grabbed his leg and said that his ankle hurt. I checked it out, it wasn't swelling or bruised,so I had him put some ice on it and told him it would be fine. The next morning he was still complaining about his ankle, it didn't look any worse, still no swelling so I told him to quit being a wuss and suck it up and deal with it. Well the next day he still wouldn't put any weight on his foot so I took him to the local urgent care for an x-ray. As it turns out, he had a hairline fracture in the bottom of the leg bone! He kept telling me "Bad Mom" since I told him to walk on a broken ankle.
Anonymous -- 4/30/2009
I am a bad mom because I have finally given up. My son dropped out of school in 10th grade. Refuses to get a job or any training. He spends his nights partying and days sleeping. He is now 18 and I can't deal with it any more. I am being evicted for the second time as a result of his actions. I am finally sending him to his Aunt's in another state. I feel relief and sorrow at the same time.
Anonymous -- 5/8/2009
I feed my son junkfood at night to shut him up before bed. I also took him to Dunkin Donuts when he was craving a donut. On the way home he fell asleep and I ate his donut!!
Anonymous -- 5/8/2009
My future step-son has often made it very known even in my presence that he is going to try and get his mother and father to get back together one day (even though their relationship was brief) despite the fact that I have been dating his dad for 6 years already (since he was a toddler) and have always been kind to him and have assumed more of the "mommy role" than even she does (ungrateful little f***er). He is always trying to include her in our plans and as part of the family (though it never works) Well, his daddy finished law school recently and finally popped the question to me and when he found out, he asked me how I would be related to his mom once I married his dad, I told him very sharply NOTHING, SHE IS NOTHING TO ANYONE IN THIS FAMILY EXCEPT YOU, YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES ABOUT HER. He looked horrified but I was FED UP of him being a little sh*t and saying crap like this. He hasn't made anymore of those little "reuniting" comments
since then. He's not a baby anymore and needs to get the hell over it already
Anonymous -- 5/8/2009
Neither funny nor embarrassing, but: breastfeeding was the worst experience of my life. Bar none. I refuse to do it beyond colostrum for my second. I will continue to blame my meds, but the truth is, I kind of hated my kid until I started bottlefeeding.
Anonymous -- 5/8/2009
It's mother's day and I feel ROTTEN. I've put my daughter through 2 of my divorces: the first one to her father who refused to work and was an alcoholic/non-working/mama's boy. The 2nd husband abusive. My daughter is 22 now and still lives at home with me and refuses to move out. I feel so horrible for wanting her to move out and leave me alone now. I feel like I've raised her and she should live on her own but I also feel guilt over the horrible, tumultous life she had to endure growing up because of my bad choices in men. Also..I had to work full-time throughout her growing years. Not WANTED TO...HAD TO. I still feel guilty. I'm now dating another man who is very nice but my daughter called me a "bitch" for choosing another man again. It's mother's day and she's still in her room sleeping. I hate mother's day. I have my own toxic mother whom I feel guilted into going to see today. She gets alot of respect from everyone including me and SH
E is really a mean bitch! What is wrong with my life? I'm almost 50 and I feel I have failed as a mother and I am a lousy human being. Thanks for letting me confess.
Anonymous -- 5/10/2009
I have raised my children with out the help of the fathers. And this includes the my husband. I tend to loose my patients. I deal with the kids everyday. He is only there to play. And then when I disaplen (sp) my children he goes why do have to be so mean! So the kids tell everyone that I am the mean mom and their daddy loves them more because he don't yell at them and put them in the corner. This makes me feel like crap. But all I got to say is I may be a mean mom but my kids listen. And I can say I done it my self.
Anonymous -- 5/10/2009
The absolute worst thing I ever did as a parent was to try diligently for 12 years to push my first son into that "should" box that my parents pushed me into("should" make good grades,"should" always do your homework,"should" join clubs, "should" be the best and the brightest, etc.)Luckily, my son was not passive like his Mom and he finally "broke me"& I began to learn to trust him to be himself and let him decide who & what that was.Today he is 22, a great young man and has survived my misguided parenting.We still butt heads and get on each others nerves but we have worked past most of that anger from his teenage years and I still work hard to let him run his life.I am a MUCH better Mom for it and am grateful every day he had such a strong will or I eventually would have driven him away.And my 2nd son has had a much easier time of growing up.
Anonymous -- 5/11/2009
All I wanted for Mothers Day, was an afternoon AWAY from my kids!
Anonymous -- 5/11/2009
To my 15 yr old sons....
I may have mentioned that they had a distant cousin who was allergic to marijuana...
he was a good kid...
but got caught up in the peer pressure thing..
tried it one time and dropped dead....
the poor guy didn't have a chance cause there was no way he could have known as there is no test....
you just drop dead your first try....
Oh and I may have mentioned that this particular allergy is hereditary.....
you just never know....
yep.. I am goin to Hell.
Dana (the Homesteading Housewife) -- 5/10/2009
My son is absolutely terrified of the vacuum. Sometimes when he's being bad I use it against him, saying I'm going to vacuum if he doesn't listen to me. Works every time.
Anonymous -- 5/14/2009
My mother constantly hugs me & tells me how much she loves me but I never hug her back. I was always awkward around this physical touch and affection, and still am at 20 years old. I am terribly afraid I will be the type of mother that never hugs her children.
Anonymous -- 5/14/2009
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