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I have been told that I am a bad mother since I started having kids. I have tried to be better for years. I have five boys now and really thought that maybe I was a good mother. Until my husband and I had a disagreement and he told me what a bad mother I was. I never spend time with them, he said, I can't take care of them, let alone myself. I am selfish, and have a not so favorable character. After he said that I realized that her was right. I am a bad mother.
-Anonymous 7/31/2009
You know those bead roller coasters? With all the heavy wires twisting around? Well we have a big one that sits on our coffee table. The 8-month-old pulled it down on top of him and his head got stuck in it. He was crawling backwards trying to get himself out of it and it was just dragging along with him. I'm a bad mom because I was running for the camera rather than running for the baby. Sorry honey!
-Anonymous 7/30/2009
I am a mom of three girls and i have tow year old who is a major bad *** i tryed to get her not to bite her older sister but she dont listen i bite her back i smack her mouth and made it bleed on accident of course any one please help!!!!!!!!! me fgure out a way to get her out of biting.
-Anonymous 8/2/2009
I yell at my six year old son all of the time. I also have a one year old daughter. We don't do much during the day, I don't keep up with the house work, Then when my husband comes home at
night, we make our son stay in the house and watch tv. We live in a crappy neighborhood, I just am not a day person, I perk up later in the afternoon. I don't like to go outside until later on. My poor kids are forced to stay in during the day, a couple of times a week. All I do is yell. I sometimes think my husband and two kids would be happier and mentally healthier without me. I cry alot and I am not fun to be around.
-Anonymous 8/2/2009
I am a bad mother. I am tired of all the responsibilty and having to figure out what to do with the kids. I work two partime jobs and watch the kids and I cant take it anymore. But we need the money. I am afraid that my husband would let us drown in debt. I am seriously considering moving back to the area where my parents are so I can get some help. This is too much. I want my life back. why do people do this
-Anonymous 8/5/2009
I feel horrible my poor son is sick and I had to work so my parents are looking after him. He looked so sad as I left for work :-(
-Anonymous 8/6/2009
I yell at my 2 and 3 year olds father all the time. He makes me so angry. He always has an excuse for not working or getting paid. I work full time and have his kids in Kindercare 4 days a week. He barely helps around the house. I have to pay for everything and do everything myself if seems. It's not fair. My kids see me mad at him all the time. I let him stay around so that they have a father around. I feel like it's unfair to the boys to be without a dad around and it's bad for them to see how angry I get. I just can't get it right. I wish I could just be a zombie around their dad and have no feelings so that they don't have to see me yell. I need a lobotomy. If I didn't enjoy them so much I would have nothing to keep me going. I get so depressed.
-Anonymous 8/6/2009
Every mother makes mistakes sometime in their lifetime of raising their child/children...
What sets the good mothers apart from the bad mothers is that the good mothers care and recognize that they have done something that they regret or may not have been very nice....
I think other mothers are the hardest on each other and its not fair. For the most part, and im sure theres a few who dont, but we all do the best we can for our children and we love them no matter how angry sad or dissapointed they can make us.
Just remember that no matter what we all feel the same way at some point. It does NOT make you a bad mother :)
-Anonymous 8/8/2009
I let my child eat a lolly off the public bathroom floor.
-Anonymous 8/7/2009
I let my kids eat junk food and watch tv all day long. I never spank them and they are rarely punished. I feel they are kids and need to enjoy life, plus I'm too lazy to get up and do anything about it..
-Anonymous 8/6/2009
Today I punched my 5yr old in the mouth for telling me that I'm a bad mother. He needs to learn to respect me. I felt bad, but it was the only thing I could think of to get him to shut his mouth. Maybe I am a bad mother?
-Anonymous 8/6/2009
I have never wanted children; thus when I got pregnant the first time, I had an abortion. When I get pregnant the second time, my boyfriend would not let me have one. Luckily, he stuck around and we are now married. However, I hate being a parent. I yell at my daughter and fervently wish some days that she never existed. Am I wrong?
-Anonymous 8/7/2009
when my youngest daughter first started talking, one thing she would oddly say very clearly was " I'm Ugly "
Sometimes she would say it with a sad face and curled lip and I would interrogate the other children on who told her this. It was cute and sad at the same time and I felt the best I could do was reassure her she was beautiful. This happened a few times a week for the next month or 2.
One day I hear her in one the kids room screaming Im ugly at my boy(7) as he sat at his desk. She was angry and trying to get at em and when he turned to me to explain his side she snatched his peanut butter crackers off his desk and started eating em like a truck driver.
For weeks my child desperately tried to tell me she was hungry
signed
Dad(bad mom)
-Anonymous 8/7/2009
We have been so busy the last few days that I havent had time or energy to bathe my 5 month old son. He smells like stinky feet...I think we are definatly gonna have to FIND the time today lol.
-Anonymous 8/8/2009
One time me and my husband forgot our baby in the car for about 10 minutes when we went into the T Mobile store. As soon as i realized it we ran out and got him. Thankfully he was still sleeping and it was not hot outside that day!
-Anonymous 8/8/2009
i had kids at a early age , been a mother since i was 19 . im now pushing 34 .
i never had a career never bought in the big bucks , so money has always been tight. but for my twins that are now 11 i feel it was worth it.
since the girls where born i have had tons of help from my family ,intil recently . since oct of last year i have had my girls by my self . since before the time that my mother moved out CPS here has been threating to take my kids and place them in foster care . i work three days a week and im finshing school to get my GED .
my girls are two wonderfull happy heathly very active kids. one twin has a learning disability and the other is normal.
our actives during the winter months was watching tv shows online and eating dinner. i cleaned house once or twice a week ,but the set up of my flat it was impossible to keep clean and with cps on my back keeping up their threats i buckeled and the housework went to shit. i overslept a few times and the kids missed a few days of school , sometimes the princible came and got them and reported back that there was a pile of clean laundry always on the bed , the floors wherent moped the dishes wherent always done and i never had the chance to properly grieve the loss of my beloved grandfather.
sometime the oldest twin would make dinner ,but i made it most of of the time . my point is that my girls always wore clean cloths to school and always had a proper lunch with them and alwys was given breakfast in bed in order to wake them up for school 15 min before the cab got there and more then half the time it didnt show up at all.
but again im told that im the worst mother in the world .
my girls are happy, well fed and healthy .
we sometimes have our fights with yelling ect. about once or twice a week . but i ask am i really a bad mother?
-Anonymous 8/8/2009
I yell all the time. I put my son in front of the tv all day long just to be alone.
-Anonymous 8/10/2009
This Site is F*#@king GREAT! Its about time moms have a way to vent what we are REALLY feeling & thinking...Cuz it aint always pretty & pleasant. I have a 1 1/2 yr old & am due with boy #2 anyday,..and i am stay at home mom. I get so irritated, that i want to divorce my sons father, just so i can have a home all to myself without his lazyass & whiney bratty 7 yr old from a previous marriage. Then, maybe i could just focus on MY sons, and not have to clean up after so many ppl.. I dont know how i manage my sanity! I breastfed for a year, and plan to again,..but this staying at home thing is harder & suckier than i ever thought it wud be. But, i LOVE my boys to death. I am just glad other mothers are cool enough to admit they lose it sometimes too. Being mommy is WAY harder than being dad. SO,.kudos to all the moms out there. Just make time for yourselves & all will work out in the end. :)
-Anonymous 8/11/2009
I am secretly happy when my daughter wants to skip the bedtime books because it's less work for me.
-Anonymous 8/12/2009
I am a bad mother because I push my kids too hard.
I have become a stage mom I cant deny it.
My expectations are too high.
My 12 year old is an amazing girl. Smart, pretty, talented.
But I always criticize her.
I make her work so hard that she cries.
And when she asks me for help I get so impatient.
Shes being nice nad polite and Im just a hot headed person.
I take out my anger on my sweet daughter.
Im a horrible mother.
-Anonymous 8/12/2009
I let my son play video-games and watch tv whenever he wants. he's happy, has an amazing vocabulary and is smarter than he would be if i was trying to teach him.
-Anonymous 8/13/2009
I yell too much and he watches movies ALL day.
-Anonymous 8/13/2009
I am a horrible mother, my daughter is 5 months old and i want to stop feeding her expressed breastmilk because i hate it! my life revolves around a three hour feeding schedule, because of it it decides what i do, what i wear. I'm turning 21 in less then a month and i wont even be able to celebrate my own birthday. i can't work, i sit at home depressed and sad, and hate that i feel this way. i want to do whats best for my daughter and know breastmilk is but at what expense? my own happiness? my boyfriend says i'm being selfish, and its hard because i have no support. I'm so tired of being sad and depressed all the time. i want to be happy agian.
-Anonymous 8/13/2009
I just felt the need to write something here. I am not making a confession about being a bad mom because I don't think I am, but I would like to send a message to all the moms out there.
Being a mom isn't easy but your child needs affection, attention and plenty of encouragement to grow up healthy.
Placing your child in front of a television, or pushing your child away when he/she wants love will mess your child up later.
They grow very fast, please if you feel like you need help there are many places to get it. Speak to a social worker or attend parenting classes.. I beg you guys please love your children with all your heart, sure you wanna have time alone.. want to go hang out with friends.. BUT this is parenting.. You decided to have children you owe it to them to give them all the opportunities you can..
We all make mistakes, but keep doing it and you will be wondering why your teenager hates you or is unable to love another..
xoxo
-Anonymous 8/13/2009
My 4yo daughter went to the dermitologist and my 5yo daughter laid down on the bed in the exam room. I told her to sit up and to quit trying to get attention. She did it again and I told her that I was tired of her always having to be the center of attention. That night she was life-flighted to the hospital, close to a diabetic coma. We had no idea there was a possibility of diabetes. I'll never get over the guilt.
-Anonymous 8/20/2009
when my 1 year old boy started biting everyone, I decided to teach him a lesson. One time he bit me real bad, I bit him back- hard- on the chin.... Apparently I could not really control myself and left a bruise on his face.
I felt soooooooooooo bad. I never hurt my baby afterwards. Oh and by the way, no, it did not work he is 2,5 now and still biting.
-Anonymous 8/26/2009
I found out last night I was going to be a grandma. Discovered other things as well. I was a teenage mom selfish, self centered and did not apprciate what I should have. My 3 boys have grown up to be wonderful men, it's seems I had very little to do with that. Majority of the time focused on what I wanted and what I needed, what made me feel good. My son did not tell me he got married I found out by accident, when I called my son also found out that he was going to be a father. I attribute his hesitation to tell me of the news, to me not being the mother I shold have been. I was not a horible mother, just not good, not good at all.
-Anonymous 8/26/2009
I am a horrily mis-guided person/mom. I do not know who the father of my second son is, I got pregnant with my second child at the age of 17. My son is now 23 and understandably resents that fact and it has damaged our relationship, I loved/love him with everything but I can not change where we are at today and so I carry this burden and realize I have past this this bruden on to him as well. He has grown up to be a fine man, not neccessarily because of me I might add but none the less a good man that is responsible, loving and caring. Just resentful of me!
-Anonymous 8/26/2009
I have three boys/men (26, 23 & 17) I am a product of a fatherless home and began serching for that father figure as early as 14, but found instead sex. My fisrt child was born when I was 15 and I was just a kid, selfish, self centered and unaware that my decisions would affect me later in life in ways that were unrepairable. My second child born when I was 18, the father is still unknown... My 3rd son born when I was 21 and still nto a good mother at that time. I wanted to be a good mother, have a good relationship with my boys and for a long time i convinced myself this was the fact. I am now 41 and full of regret but also with relazation that I can not change the past, I have made my path and now I must walk it. I have a relationship with my boys just not close and everyone feels some kind of tension when we are together. I guess it makes me and even worse mother to sometimes think if they would just dis-own me we would all be better off.
-Anonymous 8/27/2009
My 1 year old is so much harder to take care of than her older sister was. Sometimes I want time with just me and my 3 year old. I don't love her more than the baby, I just feel closer to her and that makes me feel guilty. Ok, now I'm gonna cry.
-Anonymous 8/27/2009
There are file boxes filled with photos of my family's life before me. From my entire childhood there are only 14 photos, and only two photos of me with my mother and she doesn't look happy in either of them. I really don't have memories of my mom being happy with me. I was way above average for good behaviour because of it, but it never worked. She was always mad at me for everything. She never seemed to care and never said she loved me until recently, when I asked her to. Even then she didn't say it with any feeling.
All through my childhood, I would lay in bed and hug my spare pillow and imagine it was a woman who loved me. Despite the fact that I'm happy and relatively successful in life, I always dated women like my mother and I've really never stopped going to bed, wishing or imagining that I will be someday be worthy of someone loving me.
The last woman I dated was just like my mom. After only living there for two years, she's taking the house I've owned for 11 years. When I asked my mom why she didn't seem to care about that, she just looked guilty. Then it dawned on me; she doesn't really care. When I confronted her she didn't argue with me. That was the worst part. The confirmation. Dad looked guilty too. I'm sure he always knew.
But I'll be okay. They taught me a lot of valuable lessons. I wish I was younger than 45 before I figured out how not to date her anymore, but still, my life's been a good one and I prefer to be grateful for the good parts.
If I were to say anything to other moms here, it would be that you can do all sorts of screwing up and you're just human. Just make sure they know you love them. Because if they don't know that, they'll spend decades trying to get love from loveless women and that really hurts.
None of you are as bad as you think. I love all of you.
-Anonymous 9/4/2009
My daugher had a pet rat and was tugging on her tail and degloved her. I didn't know this about rats and when I saw the blood and the poor rats bloody tail with the bone sticking out, I thought my daughter had lost it and tried to cut off her tail with scissors. I was so mad, I went to smack her - but I back handed her and at the same time she moved into me so instead I gave her a black eye. I bawled at how I thought she could have purposefully done such a thing.
Later, with it still fresh in my mind, I had the worst kind of word vomit during an interview. I haven't worked for years and I deal with anxiety, so I tend to talk and emberass myself. For some reason I got on the subject of the rats tail (minus the shiner) and of course didn't get the job. I didn't want it anyways. I wanted to stay at home and hang out on the computer.
My daughter has learned to be very indedependent because of my computer habits and even tries to occassionally entertain herself with food prducts. Like the day I was gaming and oblivious to the fact that my girl covered herself head to toe as well as a 10ft radius of carpet, in peanut butter.
-Anonymous 9/4/2009
I don't push my kids to do sports, activities or anything they don't want to do. We also refuse to buy them video games. All the other mothers I know act like I'm crazy and a terrible parent because I'm not teaching my kids valuable lessons like teamwork and sportsmanship and time management. I think my kids are happier than the ones that spend day after day being pushed from lesson to lesson, but no one else seems to agree with me.
-Anonymous 9/5/2009
I have a 17 year old boy, who wont get up in the morning, who is rude, lazy, i am at my witts end with him, he makes me feel a complete failure, just dropped out of college too, dont know what to do with him at all, i cry alot as he makes me feel so down
-Anonymous 9/5/2009
I'm a bad mom because I hate my husband's kids from his first marriage and encourage our 4 year old daughter to bully her 9 year old half sister because our daughter honestly is prettier, smarter, and better in every way.
-Anonymous 9/8/2009
I am a bad mother I leave my daugther on gradmas's care most of time, & make up lies to go out with male friends instead of speding time with my daugther, I feel bad but I want to live once againg and have fun but the remorse it's killing me.
I disregard my family comments and the reputation my actions will bring into the family.
-Anonymous 9/9/2009
I feel like a bad mom, I am 5 months pregnant, I have an 8 1/2 month old boy and a six year old boy. My 8 month old doesn't sleep through the night at all he is up every hour and has been since he was about 2 months old, and only sleeps about 20 minutes during his 2-3 daily naps. I'm exhausted, my 6 year old comes home from school and I have no energy to play with him, I get mad at my 8 month old in the middle of the night because he screams and it's my duty to keep him quiet so my family can sleep, I just feel like I can't do it anymore. I don't know what to do to get my baby to sleep through the night and I feel like my 6 year old and my fiance are not happy because I can't be everything they need me to be all the time! I should be stronger and a better fiance and mother but I'm not and I don't know how to make thing better for them!
-Anonymous 9/10/2009
I like to let mine sleep as long as possible....If they sleep until 10 a.m., I can get so much done by myself. For nap, if they sleep for 3 or 4 hours, that's great!
-Anonymous 9/10/2009
I forgot to pick up my son from pre-school. The school called my work and my boss was there so know all my coworkers think I'm a terrible Mom!!!!
-Anonymous 9/15/2009
I'm not a mom, but I work in a daycare watching 2 year olds all day, and I am tired of parents making excuses when they hear their child has been violent towards us or other kids saying "oh he never does that at home", seriously? you want me to believe that he never acts up when he hits us, screams, kicks us, spits at us and does anything he can to hurt us or others? stop lying to those who watch your kids, and use some discipline on your children!! they might be 2 but trust me they know what they are doing and how to manipulate you into thinking they are angels. If you spoil them young then they will be set to act spoiled the rest of their lives! Just had to get that out their.
-Anonymous 9/15/2009
my husband wanted children, and i did not. so when i learned that i was pregnant, he was ecstatic and i cried like someone had crushed my soul. nine months and a 10 pounder later, i have serious stretch marks, 35 extra pounds that will not go away, and i felt like a single parent, because my husband wouldn't even pick up our daughter, let alone change her diaper. not to mention that i was going through a serious case of postpartum depression. i felt so alone and wanted to kill myself. now, my daughter is six months old, and i sometimes wish i never had a child. it is still like pulling teeth to get my husband to help me with her. don't get me wrong, i really love my daughter. i just get so resentful of my husband because since i became a mother my life has changed so drastically, while his is basically the same. most of the time i feel like running away. i know most of my feeling are from my postpartum depression. I really empathize with all the m
others out there dealing with the same problems. i just keep telling myself that things will get better with time.
-Anonymous 9/20/2009
I became a single parent when my kids were very little. Once, when my older son was 5, he wanted "more sugar, more sugar" on his oatmeal before school. I got so tired of putting it on one spoonful at a time, I dumped the entire sugar bowl into his breakfast and stood over him while he cried and ate it. And when he was 7 I called my older sister to come over and hold him down while I spanked him (I can't remember now what he did) because I couldn't catch him by myself. That made me madder than whatever he did to get the spanking in the first place. The first time my younger son used a swear word I fed him a spoonful of shampoo. He had diarrhea for 4 days. Don't ever do this. They're 19 and 22, graduated from High School, and with good jobs and reasonably happy, and I feel like they did well in spite of me, NOT because of me. There's worse things I did, but I won't mention them here.
-Anonymous 9/22/2009
My 9 year old step-son is mentally retarded (yes that's the term), autistic and has a chromasome abnormality, he live with my hsband and myself. We have three other children and have a very busy life with sports, school, activities, etc... I am a bad mother because I resent my step-son for not having any life skills (not potty trained, non verbal, can't feed himself and many other annoying things. I love my husband so much, but I think his son is ruining my life. I don't want to be changing crappy diapers and spoonfeeding someone 15 years down the road when the rest of kids are grown?
-Anonymous 9/22/2009
When my 1 yr old daughter takes her nap i turn on a cartoon for my 3 yr old and go take a nap.
-Anonymous 9/22/2009
I love my children but at times wish I could go back in time and I never would have had any, knowing how hard motherhood can be.
-Anonymous 9/28/2009
My son is now almost 4 and his front teeth are decaying. I feel so bad because when he was younger I always let him have a sippy cup of milk or a bottle at bedtime. I knew I shouldn't do this but was the only way I could have peace...now he has yucky teeth and is all my fault and I deserve the dentist bills.
-Anonymous 9/29/2009
I have a two year old who is just down right bad yes bad! I cannot even begin to think how I wanted to have my first baby and she turns out to be high maintenance and destructive and frankly I spend most of the day yelling at her. My one year old is the perfect little angel compared to her sister...Sometimes I think of leaving my husband just so he could take care of the two year old all by his lonesome!
-Anonymous 9/30/2009
My 18 month old gets very fussy in the afternoon, right when it is time to start making dinner and get things ready for my husband's return from work. I call it his "unhappy hour". Sometimes I scatter a small handful of chocolate chips on the living room carpet. It keeps him busy (and happy) while I make dinner :/
-Anonymous 10/26/2009
I have a feeling all moms try so hard to be supermoms! i FEELso guilty for everthing I do wrong in my eyes . Im usually really happy with my kids but can get so resentful of washing cooking and cleaning all the time , and husbands can get so used to you diong everthing for everyone . while they get to tuck kids in and do their thing I callem disney dads their for the great moments while were here for the rest. Mothering has its ups and downs and babies do not come with instructions .I do know this the happier I am the better of a mom I am ! Take time out for girls night with nooo guilt for peace of mind!
-Anonymous 10/8/2009
When my kids were little my mother in law moved in with us and refused to help with the kids she wanted us to take care of her for about two years i started yelling at everone and would lose my temper in about two seconds flaT!! HOPE MY KIDS WILL FORGIVE ME!!
-Anonymous 10/8/2009
I feel like I am a bad mother. I am a single mother who is currently working a custody agreement with the father (he gets her a one day a week and every other weekend) Sometimes it feels like that's not enough. I've never been the nurturing type and as much as I love my daughter, I sometimes cry and envision the times when I wasn't a mother. How easy life would be. I am doing this alone with the support of my parents while working full time and going to school. My parents are my rock but even they get disappointed and think I need to step up more. I have had plenty of stressful days and lack of sleep and I sometimes just sit and stare off in space while my daughter is crying or leave the room for a little bit. It makes me sad that I do that especially when she needs me but for sanity reasons, I know I need a "timeout" It's good to know there are mothers out there who are real and are not perfect.
-Anonymous 10/10/2009
Sometimes I let my toddler watch tv all day so I can get a day "off"
-Anonymous 10/10/2009
Sometimes I think my one year old might be a spawn of Satan. He is so fussy and cranky ALL THE TIME. He acts like a three year old and I am terrified of what is going to happen when he is a little older. I am trying so hard to be a good mom. That's the worst part about it, I actually care.
-Anonymous 10/13/2009
i'm so tired from my week that my husband and son are playing and i'm laying here surfing the net. bad mommy.
-Anonymous 10/13/2009
I am a terrible mother because I told my daughter her grandmaw was mean to me when I was little. What I told her was true, I got tired of hearing my mother tell my daughter what a great mom she was to me when I was little and my 4 year old little girl told me "Mama you are lucky to have g'ma!" Ugh!
-Anonymous 10/19/2009
Sometimes my 15 year old son is such a smart ass and SUCH a spoiled brat, that I wonder if I did the right thing by bringing him in to this world. And once I even told him so. Maybe I really am the worst mother in the world. And maybe he really is the worst kid. EVER. ?
-Anonymous 10/20/2009
My 3 children have frustrated me a lot this week and I screamed at them using the F bomb!
-Anonymous 10/28/2009
Love my kids like crazy,
have two boys, TV is my baby sitter more then I want it to be.
Keep planning and talking about adding some activities sports in thier life and done nothing so far. The ayre active healthy
I just hope Ihave time to make my wrods into reality before it is too late.
-Anonymous 11/9/2009
My twenty-year-old daughter (who I, for the sake of both our sanities, have begged to move out, pleaded with to move out, threatened that she must move out, and yes...even kicked out two, three, five times) is moving out. Now I want to go running after her pleading with her to come back. ARG! What is wrong with me.
-Anonymous 11/11/2009
I'm a bad mother because I wanted to be my son's friend instead of his parent. I'm a bad mother because I didn't impose rules with him when he said he wouldn't like me if I did. I'm a bad mother because I let my son make the rules rather than fight him about it. I'm a bad mother because I wanted to be the "cool mom" and not the "strict mom". But, now I'm a good mother -- because I visit my son every week .............IN PRISON! For the last 7 years. Listen and Learn!!!
-Anonymous 11/16/2009
I think to be a bad mom!! my huosband is better than me|! and infact my baby prefer him to me!!
sob!!
-Anonymous 11/16/2009
Yesterday my husband and I put the baby down for a nap then sent the bigger kids to a neighbor's house to play for an hour so we could have sex.
-Anonymous 11/19/2009
I guess we all feel like bad mothers at times. I know I do!!
But we have to remember that motherhood IS HARD!!
I thought i was going to be a GOOD patient ,loving , cuchy cooing fool with my baby. And I try everyday to be the best to my son, but the truth is that from day one it was hard for me to have patience! with the demands of husband and home and in-laws and on top of it ME my biggest critict telling me i did not do or say the right thing, it has not been the easiest thing to be a GOOD mom.
The worst i have been to my beautiful, inteligent, stuborn, loving son is to screem at him to shuuuuttttt uuppppp!!!!! and actually pushing him out of the way. and then exploding and falling apart in front of him.
I work very hard to keep my temper in check, if anyone can make me go nuts in 2 secons flat is my son.
as he has gotten older and i have practice my breathing and yoga and metation and everyGod frosaken thing to calm me down on the count of 10(yea right!!! who the hell came up with that!!)
I still end up yelling SHUUT UUUPPP! but now i add a please and then i am so so sorry ! and then most times we end up looking so silly (pissed, but silly) that we end up laughing, and the most beatifull thing is that my son actually will say i am sorry mommy for being stuborn or a pain.
so yea i am bad but in the end we all are a little!
patience ladies!
-Anonymous 11/19/2009
I use to think I was a bad mother, but if a mother does the best she can they are not bad mothers.
-Anonymous 11/20/2009
I'm a bad mother because I'm tired to clean the shit of my baby, to wash my husband's clothes and to go out with my dog..... I'm going crazy!!! I'm gonna let all go bananas!!
-Anonymous 11/21/2009
I'm an Italian mother. I have been always asking myself, how are not-Italian mothers, because I had the impression that the not-Italian mothers are more long-sighting because they love their children not so much, as the Italian ones. But today I discovered this website, and now I change my opinion: MOTHER has same meaning all over the world! Same applies for "good mother" and "bad mother". No difference from North Pole to Australia. Important is being MOTHER, good or bad depends probably on the opinion of our children. If we say we are bad mothers, we state we are mothers. If we say we are good mothers, we overestimate ourselves.
-Anonymous 11/21/2009
Actually I cursed at my 4yr old.
-Anonymous 11/21/2009
I feel like the worst mom in the world. I am always on top of things, I have 4 children, ages 8, 6, 1 and 3 months- I run a Preschool, and also watch my sisters little girl a lot. I ran to the store with my husband, my sister had my 1 year old at the house and my 8 year old was at his friends and I had the 6 year old- Ran into the store, my husband waited in the car, came home carried the groceries inside and realized I left my son (3 month old) in the car- It was only 10 min but I feel like the worst mom in the world, I cried for most of the day. I can't believe I did that.
-Anonymous 11/21/2009
I hit my limit with being a mother. She's going to her dad's. Good luck to him. My friends say I'm being brave to address my issues before trying to parent her again, properly next time, but society doesn't look at it that way. Society thinks I'm abandoning her. Well you know what? Even mothers don't have to put up with infinite bullshit.
-Anonymous 11/21/2009
I'm a bad mom because I found out today my 12 year old daughter is pregnant. This will be my second grandbaby my 16 year old has a 1 year old little girl.
-Anonymous 11/22/2009
I don't like my middle child. I have fantasies of her moving out on her 18th birthday. It's my fault she is the way she is. I guess I deserve it.
-Anonymous 11/22/2009
1 day with my 2 and 4 year old is like torture, they fight, I scream...it goes on and on and I cant wait until they are both at school so I can have some peace.
-Anonymous 11/22/2009
I have refused to let my son see his grandmother. There is a very good reason for that - my mother is poisonous and I refuse to allow her to feed him the venom about what nasty people his parents are. She tells me I'm a bad mother (a bad everything actually) and he thinks I'm trying to deny him the chocolate she will feed him.
-Anonymous 11/23/2009
Well, I think we ALL think we are bad mothers at one time or another or more than not. We all do things or say things in the moment that we will regret for the rest of our lives. In most cases these things are done in the most difficult time of their lives. Before they turn 6. Most of them will not even remember unless it is truly a horrible thing. I am not perfect as a mother or as a human being. All I know is as long as you do your best to love and take care of your children, you are a good mom with bad days, bad moods and sometimes simply bad judement. Learn by your mistakes and remember they are little people who will grow up under other influences other than YOU that will help shape them. True bad moms don't care about their children, put themselves first and would not confess to things like spanking their children, I have, like screaming at them with bared teeth, I have. As a single mohter I know oh too well how diffcult being a Mom is but
I love, care for and take care of my child as best as I can making mistakes every step of the way. But when my daughter smiles at me and says "Mommy, I love You" without any provoking...that means I'm not such a bad mommy after all.
-Anonymous 11/24/2009
When my son was little I was always bored playing stupid games with him. I wonder if he noticed this.
-Anonymous 11/28/2009
I think my own true confession about being a mother is that I wish I weren't always responsible to someone else, wish I could be selfish and eat my dinner first or take a shower without interruption. Or read a book in a weekend. Without interruption. Speaking of books though, I just read the book The Lost Daughter by Daralyse Lyons and it made me feel infinately better about my own mothering abilities!!!!
-Anonymous 11/29/2009
I feel guilty for three things:
1. I sometimes yell at my 4-year old daughter for stupid reasons. Mostly because I am frustrated about something unrelated and then she does something annoying. I scream and occasionaly use the f-word and I know that it is totally out of proportion to whatever she has said or done.
2. I want more time to myself, more time with my husband, and more time with my friends. I feel like I have very little time when I can decide what to do with myself.
3. I had an abortion last year because the fetus turned out to have Down syndrome. I have always been pro-choice, but still felt terrible about not giving that child a chance. We just felt that since we don't have a lot of money and already feel pretty overwhelmed with one very demanding child, and being in our 40's that we just couldn't handle it. And I don't want to have to take care of a grown-up child for the rest of my life.
Reading everyone else's confessions makes me realize that mostly we are not bad mothers, just tired and frustrated, and maybe not all that well suited to parenthood, because it is really hard. Let's all give ourselves a break while we keep trying to do a little better.
-Anonymous 12/2/2009
i am a horrible daughter but listen she used to beat me and i movd away because i couldnt handle it but i am the bad person.
She told me that she never lot anything because she never wanted daughters or kids. so To all the bad moms out there become a mom are die alone
-Anonymous 12/2/2009
I sometimes wish we only had one child. My second born is always crying and just a pain in the ass. I'm a shitty mom because I started yelling and it took me months to figure out that yelling doesn't do anything good. I never yelled with my oldest and now my younger one is insecure and unhappy.
-Anonymous 12/3/2009
I am mean to my 2 year old, yelling at her. I slapped my 10 month old on her hand tonight because she put it in her cereal. I am impatient and I hate myself. I knew I wouldn't be a good mother. I would just like to die.
-Anonymous 12/3/2009
I have 2 cars and a brand new house. I won't let my college aged daughter drive one of my cars until next Summer 2010 when sne can afford her own.
-Anonymous 12/3/2009
I make my daughter feel guilty about things she does when she's just being a teenager because it makes me feel good for her to apologize.
-Anonymous 12/3/2009
I don't tell my kid "good job" when she gets straight A's.
-Anonymous 12/3/2009
I don't love my daughter anymore. She has ADHD but it literally uncontrollable at age 12. I can hardly stand to be around her and her voice makes my skin crawl.
-Anonymous 12/6/2009
I am a bad mother. My 3 year old still nurses because I dont know how to get him to wean and I cant deal with the crying and begging for "nurses".
-Anonymous 12/6/2009
I often feel like my own mother turned me into a bad mother, she makes out she never did any of the things she did to me and my sisters while our brothers got treated like gods. now I'm a mother my tv does most of the caring while I yell and scream and find myself doing everything I said I wouldn't do the only difference between me and my mother is I'm still walking around with holes in my shoes and undies like when I was a kid because unlike my mother I'll buy my kids new clothes instead of myself I also try to take my kids to the park sometimes and paint and draw with them my mother NEVER did these things she just yelled and screamed and hit me and my sister and made us do all the house work while she called us lazy and useless and stupid and now sometimes I catch myself saying these things to my girls and I hate myself for it I often think about killing myself so they dont have to have a mother like I did
-Anonymous 12/7/2009
So many mommies here are depressed. Please get the help you need! If youre avoiding your kids by putting them in front of the TV, or if youre crying or unhappy after having kids, you might be depressed. Please get help!
-Anonymous 12/7/2009
I wish my teenage children would run away from home so I can have some peace
-Anonymous 12/8/2009
I am 22, have a 2 yr daughter, am a college grad with good job, and have a wonderful partner in her father. However, my mother thinks that I am a bad mom because I discipline her when need be (using time-outs per guidelines of her pediatrician), set a bed-time of 8:30 or 9 (depending on us both), and don't let her run all over me.
One night when I was putting my daughter to bed, and she was throwing a temper tantrum (she was grump and irritable because she was tired and I knew that). My mother comes out of her room yelling "What did you do to her?" I get so tired of her criticism (which I don't believe she should be allowed seeing as she was a shitty mother), so I yelled back at her. She said "No wonder she [my daughter] hates you [me]."
I want to believe it isn't true and my daughters father tells me I am a wonderful mom and I get compliments from family members about how well-behaved and wonderful my daughter is. She is MY mom and it hurts me when she says these things. I feel like a crappy person and I don't deserve my daughter because if my own mother doesn't love me than how can I expect anyone else to; I must be awful to be unloved by my own mom.
-Anonymous 12/8/2009
My 14 yr old daughter is sweet, kind, shy, goes on very well at school and even helps me out in the home. Still sometimes I have terrible anger fits at her (for stupid things such as when she loses her allergy medicine...dumb, I know but she didn't do it on purpose and it is the age of forgetfulness). When I calm down I feel terrible and apologyze to her, but still it is wrong to get so angry...still, the same happens every now and then...where do I go wrong? what can I do?
-Anonymous 12/10/2009
I'm a bad mom because I yelled to my 2 years old daughter because she doesn't want to sleep... and now I'm blogging letting her watching TV!
-Anonymous 12/10/2009
I am a bad mom. My five year old son kept complaining that he didn't want to sit anywhere other than the recliner because his back hurt. I told him what I always heard as a child, that he was "too young to have a back." About a week later, his urine became dark. Turns out, he had a pretty severe kidney infection. =(
